Depression doesn’t equal sadness. Depression is not a feeling. It is a state of mind that affects your entire life and your feelings.
The majority of people believe they have felt depression in their lives. But they haven’t. They’ve felt sadness and grief.
Most people don’t say they’ve felt schizophrenic for a day or a month or a year and then they just up and walked out of it. Depression’s the same. We’ve just learned to over-diagnose it (and self-diagnose it), and in doing so, completely misunderstand what it is.
People believe depression is sadness. THAT IS NOT TRUE. You can be depressed and sad. Depressed and angry. Depressed and happy.
Please curb your appropriation of mental illness.
Please tell me that it’s bugging other people that everyone keeps talking about Tom Daley being homosexual when he’s bisexual…
I mean be real with me. All you Perks of Being a Wallflower Lovers. Be real with me. I could use a ton more examples but I have work in oh six hours. What I’m trying to say is that mental illness is not a shiny flashy pretty thing. It is not something that makes people more interesting…it makes their lives hell.
Sidenote: People are always trying to one up each other on sadness.
eg. This sad thing happened to you? Oh well this sadder thing happened to me!
It doesn’t mean that you more interesting or more wonderful if a terrible thing happened to you. All it means is that a terrible thing happened to you. Stop glorifying it. Stop trying to extract some sort of beauty from trauma or mental illness. It’s gross and creepy.
Breaking my heart that I have to take this sentence out so of course I’m posting it:
So I went over to see why a poor man would use rich man’s words every five minutes or so.
Three Figures in Water
Idealizing people is shitty. Don’t do it. If you ever do it to me, I’ll go on a crazy long rant. I am a lot of things that aren’t fantastic. I can be selfish, mean, self-absorbed, stubborn…we all can. When you idealize people, you’re selfish. You have a pretty little nice idea and you attribute to someone. You don’t separate your own desires from a human being.
Perhaps I’m not articulating this well. But it’s pretty messed up that we idealize people all the time. I’m not talking about celebrities. I’m talking about that one person that you could’ve dated two years ago, that one person who you’ve put onto a pedestal. Once you idealize someone, you stop thinking of them as a whole person. You’ve compartmentalized them. You’ve dehumanized them. Just stop.